LOVED ONE IS A PROBLEM GAMBLER?

Is Someone You Know Gambling For More Than Fun?
Just thinking about talking to someone about a gambling problem can be scary, but knowing how to begin can help you find the courage to start the conversation. First choose a comfortable place where you won’t be disturbed. Then keep it simple and straightforward.

• Tell the person you care about him/her and you’re concerned about how he/she is acting.
• Tell the person exactly what he/she’s done that concerns you.
• Tell the person how his/her behavior is affecting other people – and be specific.
• Be clear about what you expect from him/her (“I want you to talk to someone about your gambling.”) and what he/she can expect from you (“I won’t cover for you any more.”).
• After you’ve told the person what you’ve seen and how you feel, allow him/her to respond. Listen with a non-judgmental attitude.
• Let the person know you are willing to help, but don’t try to counsel him/her yourself.
• Give the person information, not advice. Encourage him/her to call the Missouri help line at 1-888-BETSOFF (1-888-238-7633).

When Their Problem Is Your Problem
If you are the spouse or family member of a problem gambler, it is important for you to take care of yourself and realize that you are not responsible for the gambler’s behavior. Even if your loved one isn’t ready or willing to get help, you can call Missouri’s problem gambling help line at 1-888-BETSOFF or talk to a counselor yourself. Free treatment is available in Missouri for family members of a problem gambler.

Source: National Council on Problem Gambling